Top 3 Most Annoying Kinds of Dawah

When I was a non-practicing Muslim, I came across many characters who tried to give me dawah (invitation to Islam). I didn’t respond to them very well. These (I’m sure well-intentioned) brothers may be familiar to you. If not, then you’re missing out.

1. The Fire and Brimstone Dawah Man

This brother is a partypooper, a killjoy, a stick in the mud, a wet blanket, and a grouch. Yes, I looked up synonyms in the dictionary. He does not enjoy long walks on the beach. He’d rather give you ‘dawah’ by only talking about Hell when he’s around you. He’s a fault-finder. A really, REALLY good one at that. He often quotes Qur’anic verses out of context, and smile, what’s that? He may be the reason you dislike going to the Mosque or fear discussing religion in general. He’s typically harsh in his approach and exhaustively pessimistic. There is a Paradise is there not? I’m so depressed. I want my mommy!

You avoid talking to him. You know, the same way you avoid talking politics with your uncle who knows everything about everything. Oh, and of course everything is a conspiracy.

One time I was in a store and this one brother (I kid you not) walked around saying, “Man, I hate being around these Kafirs!”. How pleasant. He must be a joy to be around.

In the end, I love him for the sake of Allah, but can’t stand to be around him.

2. The Everything is Haram Dawah Man

“The Internet is Haram!” says the brother as he tweets USING the Internet. You can’t talk to him. It’s a one-man show. He loves to give advice, but hates receiving it. One of his favorite hobbies is using social media to tell you how Haram you are. “Astaghferallah, you typed LOL. Haram! We’re not supposed to laugh out loud.” or “Astaghferallah sister, I see two hairs in your profile pic. You’re not covering properly. Haram!” or “Your face is Haram!”

Erm, what happened to lowering your gaze, bruh? You do know that the command for men to lower their gaze preceded the command for women to cover, right?

This brother is a high-ranking Haram Police official. Apparently, he doesn’t own a mirror. He argues with you all day and night in the YouTube comments section, on Facebook or on Twitter, but will (almost never) show his face. He’ll probably tell you that it’s because digital photos are Haram. His profile pic will most likely be a lion or something similar. I guess that pic isn’t Haram.

3. The Everything is Halal Dawah Man

Anything goes with this brother. He means well, but is clueless. He’s basically a modern day, religious hippie. He doesn’t know what Haram even means because he’s never used the term. He constantly talks about peace and love, but is in complete denial when it comes to politics and the harsh realities many Muslims face around the world. Hell? What’s that? The thought never enters his mind. He’s really easygoing and likable, but also lives in a pineapple under the sea. What comes out of his mouth may be sweet, but can also be very misleading.

What We Need

The well balanced dawah man (or woman). This brother is my favorite. He’s forthright, yet subtle. He advises you in private. He reminds you about Paradise and Hell in a way that doesn’t make you run away. He smiles. He’s engaging. He gives you his undivided attention. He’s a good listener and often soft spoken. He leads by example and always encouraging. He doesn’t shove faith down your throat. He understands that faith is cultivated, and that it cannot be manufactured. He delivers the message in small quantities, so that you can properly digest the information and reflect upon it. He’s kind and courteous, and never overbearing.

He simply makes you want to be a better person.

Yes, I know guidance only comes from Allah, and yes, I know our jobs are only to convey the message, but c’mon, the delivery of the message is just as important as the message itself.

Was the Prophet ﷺ harsh in his dawah?

“And by the mercy of Allah you dealt with them gently. If you were harsh and hard hearted, they would have fled from around you” {Quran 3:159}

Not clear enough? How about this …

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided. {16:125}

Indeed …

There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often. {33:21}

Be the reason people embrace Islam, not the excuse for why they reject it.

By: Nader (MW Admin)


6 thoughts on “Top 3 Most Annoying Kinds of Dawah”

  1. Assalamu ‘alaykum,
    Thanks for this article which, as always, depicts our reality far too well…
    As I read the second verse you quoted, it reminded me of this lecture by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan called “In need of Wisdom” and I hope it’s OK if I share it with you here in sha Allah:

    May Allah ‘azza wa jal make us good ambassadors of His deen!

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  2. Couldn’t agree more. Adding to your point: I’m constantly distressed by the way some of us muslims respond to hateful speech on the internet (out of good will undoubtedly), conveying a false image on the manners of Islam. I can not understand how someone could preach about Islam being a peaceful religion when half of his characters solely devoted to cursing and threatening.

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